It ain’t easy bein’ cool.

(But someone’s gotta do it).

> people in real life seem overly concerned about keeping things "harmonious"

“Overly” concerned… most people I’ve met that think harmonious social interactions are unnecessary ended up actually just being assholes, jerks, or weirdos.

> it'd obviously be sexual harassment no?

No? I wouldn’t refer to that as sexual harassment, and I would be confused if someone did.

I wonder if there’s some cultural difference here (given other expressed confusion in this thread), in my experience “sexual harassment” refers to harassment of a sexual (intercourse) nature, not a sexual (sex — or gender I suppose) nature. So referring to someone’s genitals could be sexual harassment, but referring to someone’s X or Y chromosome wouldn’t be.

(If you said “short skirted” to imply promiscuity, say, then sure. But if you said “dangly earinged” then definitely not despite dangly earrings probably being more associated with women).

People are very opposed to the idea that they can’t buy a house where they grew up, or in an area they feel is comparable. Which I suppose I can understand.

But to your point — things change, you aren’t rich enough, it sucks, get over it.

But so much of the new age groups is sold the dream HARD by social media ala Instagram. Aspirationalism is far worse than it was with previous generations.

I think it’s a reasonable criticism that often the immediately “right” thing is in fact fraught with unintended consequences, and when there’s intense societal or cultural pressure to do the immediately right thing without thinking of those consequences, you could end up in a worse position than you began.

I’ve been there! At least when you write it the second time it goes more quickly.

I suppose that, given the backup goalie is local, even if you lose, you win. Cheer on the hometown hero!