And yet, at the end of the day, I always sleep better knowing that I put the effort in to be a good person, even if it didn’t work out the way I’d hoped.

I get the cynicism; it’s easy to feel like the world is just full of uncaring people sometimes. But, does adding one more help?

You aren't a good person for being subservient. You are a bad person, because you are enabling bad people.

Evil is in most cases a Yin/Yang system of abuser and willing victim. Both are dependent on each other for their common goal of creating evil in this world.

The abuser from primitive motives: "I have to do it to them, because if I'm not an abuser, somebody will make me a victim."

The willing victim because he thinks it's an easy path to be a good person: "I don't have to engage my heart and soul, just take abuse and each "point" of abuse turns into good boy points for me."

There is nothing to be admired about victims and the victim cult is a mistake. They deserve empathy and help, they don't deserve admiration.

There’s a lot of pain and anger in this reply. I’m sorry you have had to experience whatever has led you here.

Not at all. It's a reflection on human behaviour, in the content that the other commenter said that you shouldn't concern yourself with bad actors as long as you can later say that "you did the right thing". That can bring you to bad situations, as another poster warned about above.

Taking care to not be an abuser and to not be a victim is rather the best path, even if it demands more from the person. It's easy to just do what others tell you, but it will soon bring misery.

> You aren't a good person for being subservient. You are a bad person, because you are enabling bad people.

To stay on topic:

You definitely are not going to be invited to my parties!

Wow, what a thread drift! I thought we were talking about inviting friends to have fun.

It's that hope that things will work out that causes suffering and disappointment.

"I'll be nice, and others will be nice in turn" is magical thinking. There is no such deal in place.

It's perfectly possible for others to soak up all that niceness and then suddenly leave without being equally nice in return. If pressed, they might even say they didn't ask for the goodness that befell them, they were just happy to accept when it was offered, thereby absolving themselves of any obligation.

We’re in dire need of this right now. The number of people that I work with who refuse to pick up new tools and technologies is astounding. If they _do_ try something new, they seem to avoid all but the most basic knowledge of whatever it is, and look at me crosseyed if I suggest going the slightest bit deeper (`git add -p` rather than `git add .`, for example).

I'm sure it varies a lot place to place but I've experienced much more of the opposite in the tech industry. I've heard countless times that we should switch to a different tool because it's newer, from someone who couldn't name a single specific way it's better than the existing tool. I see so much busy work at my employers and in products I use where things get changed just for the sake of change, without getting any better.

I feel like it's a mix of both, depending on how familiar thungs are. It's probably much easier for someone in tech to try moving to a new tool for no real reason than it is for them to learn a bit of CAD and a bit of electronics to make a widget (again, for no real reason).

There’s also a browser extension which does the same thing, but attempts to be a bit more content-aware: https://popupoff.org

Bundles of reusable code for commonly performed operations that lead to dependency hell and supply chain attacks.

The better place to spend time might be the automation of operational tasks on those servers so that logging in isn’t necessary in the first place. Then you don’t have to leave your home environment and you can run whatever custom editing configuration you want. Of course the other upsides to that automation overshadow this a bit.

I'm of the opinion that if you need to log in to a server you've already failed.

Nobody should be ABLE to log in to servers by default, that's the way they become unicorns and not cattle.

Anecdotally, I have preferred it to sucralose, because sucralose leaves an aftertaste akin to gargling with liquid plastic.

That's not even an anecdote; it's a taste preference, and that's fine.

I’m legitimately curious about what you enjoy and why. Rewriting boiler plate code and trying to ensure that I get everything right with a process I don’t often execute is the very definition of toil to me.

It allows me to gain a basic understanding of the fundamentals of my code base.

I would love to know what software Atlassian uses to maintain documentation, because I have a hard time believing they’re eating their own dog food.

Confluence, and DAC mostly

I’m currently working on migrating Java code from mid-range systems to containers in the cloud. The number of code changes required is near zero. They may not have gotten portability perfectly solved, but it’s pretty darn good compared to many other platforms.

Now, if the industry could just get out of the ridiculous Java 8/11 rut, we’d be in good shape.

Ugh, this has become a huge issue with text editing controls. More and more, I find that content gets unloaded once it’s out of the editor’s viewport, making the browser’s built-in search fail.