I'm at FB currently, maybe it's a problem on other orgs but my experience has been very good (2 years). It's not perfect but I haven't heard horror stories like this, and my manager and pms are happy to let eng set project estimates.
Hey so I have to ask, do you actually like what you do? I don't mean that in a rude way or anything. I just honestly don't know what people do at FB anymore. Do you work on the core platform or are you working on Mark's new idea?
Yoooo, not offended at all. I work on the backend that powers navigation. I do like what I do. Of course itβs not as sexy as a 0-1 project at a startup but there are plenty of interesting problems and I really like the people. What makes me happy might not work for others of course. There are always trade offs