Just because you enjoy a thing at a certain time in your life, doesn't mean necessarily that you would or could have enjoyed a similar thing earlier.
Besides, social interactions are one of those things that don't depend exclusively on you but also on the environment and on luck. I had better and worse periods, I doubt I could have had only "great periods". Going through periods is how you also learn and get to put some effort to change (the environment and yourself).
In the grand scheme, it's very difficult to miss out on anything.
Taking phrases like "when you're ready" as a condescending insult or ego challenge is a stronger guarantee of pain than simply doing nothing. Your own expectations and misguided impressions are most of the pain.
There are plenty of bitter and unhappy people who got that way by being delusional. Misjudging one's own experiences and accomplishments is what it really means to "miss out".
On hn, a joke increases its fun factor by being over-explained in excruciating detail with several digressions into related jokes and the history and philosophy of joking, and someone ends up showing a site they made with all the possible variations of that joke and something about the scrolljacking css annoys one of the commenters enough that they break in and fix it.
A variation of that joke is used in Zen Buddhism as a teaching story. A famous monk, who lived in voluntary poverty in a mountain hut, wakes up in the middle of the night because a robber had broken in - except the robber couldn't find anything of value. So the monk listened to the rummaging sound for a while, and feeling bad for the robber's family, offers his blanket. The robber is so surprised by the kindness of the monk that he gives up his stealing ways and decides to become a good guy.
A famous monk, who maintained empty website to make a point about Zen, wakes up in the middle of the night because LLM crawler had broken in past captcha -- except the crawler couldn't find anything of value on his website. So the monk listened to the futile rummaging sounds of HDD's head for a while, and feeling bad for the crawler's company, put his lifetime worth of manuscripts on the website. The crawler was so surprised by the kindness of the monk that it started to crawl his website 100 per second, DDoSing it out of existence.
Both things can be true (the second being that staging was never necessarily not a desirable abstraction in light of easily and safely amendable commits)
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