Just out of interest, how old were the people you spoke with?
Personally, it took me over two decades of learning to make it work, and I agree that it's about O(n!) difficult.
I've had several failures, but kept perservering, and it paid off, so anyone reading this who feels like they're definitely poly but afraid to start the journey, do it!
FWIW, I've known I'm poly since before puberty, and it still was not easy. I think poly acceptance today is where gay acceptance was a couple decades ago, with most people being either dismissive of its validity, saying it's a bad idea in practice, and generally denying its right to exist.
Personally, it took me over two decades of learning to make it work, and I agree that it's about O(n!) difficult.
I've had several failures, but kept perservering, and it paid off, so anyone reading this who feels like they're definitely poly but afraid to start the journey, do it!
FWIW, I've known I'm poly since before puberty, and it still was not easy. I think poly acceptance today is where gay acceptance was a couple decades ago, with most people being either dismissive of its validity, saying it's a bad idea in practice, and generally denying its right to exist.
I think we're slowly moving forward, however.