Sure but it permeates the whole thing. It's a violent game, you just don't happen to be the agent of the violence. Still the opposite of 'non-violent game'.
Yes, when someone asks for games that don't involve violence, guns, war and is suitable for playing with children, the answer is not 'something that's not Doom' but a game that doesn't involve violence, guns, war and is suitable for playing with children.
Right, but guns and violence and aggression aren't portrayed as fun things in Disco Elysium. They are portrayed as bad things. I don't understand why people are so caught up on kids games when the OP is looking for games to play themselves OR with their kids. That "or", while not a long word, makes a huge difference.
the OR is important, maybe I'll suggest Death Stranding after all then. Kojima specifically wanted a game not focused on violence and instead of symbol of "togetherness".
Hardly a game for kids though, perhaps mostly because they wouldn't be able to relate to the world or its characters.