The article is behind a paywall, so I'm just going to just say the experiences I have heard from other people. I have never been on a dating app.
The problem seems to stem from an imbalance of the sexes. Men have found it a soul-crushing experience. Women get an abundance of matches, whilst men rarely get any. There are a few men that get an overwhelming majority of matches, the rest get nothing. It's winner-takes-all as far as the men go. Even that seems to be narrowing. Attractive men who would have gotten dates easily in the past find it increasingly difficult.
This would seem great for the ladies, but they seem to face the paradox of choice. With so many good prospects to choose from they have difficulty deciding which one to go for. The result is that all choices seem mediocre. There is a YT vid out there where a US-based Asian male model went onto a dating app. He described the process as brutal. And this is from a good-looking man. His major crime was to be an ethnic.
This seems to feed a further decline. The men try to strike up conversations, only to receive one-word answers from the women. The women put in zero effort because, hey, why would they, there is a plethora of suitors to choose from. Except that that's not how meaningful relationships work. There has to be effort from both parties.
This leads to men putting in less effort as they realise the futility of the exercise. The women complain that men aren't making any effort, and demurring on things like taking women to dinner and paying for it. After all, why would a man do this when the payoff isn't likely to be worth it?
The problem seems to stem from an imbalance of the sexes. Men have found it a soul-crushing experience. Women get an abundance of matches, whilst men rarely get any. There are a few men that get an overwhelming majority of matches, the rest get nothing. It's winner-takes-all as far as the men go. Even that seems to be narrowing. Attractive men who would have gotten dates easily in the past find it increasingly difficult.
This would seem great for the ladies, but they seem to face the paradox of choice. With so many good prospects to choose from they have difficulty deciding which one to go for. The result is that all choices seem mediocre. There is a YT vid out there where a US-based Asian male model went onto a dating app. He described the process as brutal. And this is from a good-looking man. His major crime was to be an ethnic.
This seems to feed a further decline. The men try to strike up conversations, only to receive one-word answers from the women. The women put in zero effort because, hey, why would they, there is a plethora of suitors to choose from. Except that that's not how meaningful relationships work. There has to be effort from both parties.
This leads to men putting in less effort as they realise the futility of the exercise. The women complain that men aren't making any effort, and demurring on things like taking women to dinner and paying for it. After all, why would a man do this when the payoff isn't likely to be worth it?
And that's why dating apps are such a sh*tshow.