This 'reminder to be kind' bullshit is why I got so frustrated with Elm, and ultimately quit using it. For the same reasons, I actively recommend against using it, and I will recommend any place I find using it to migrate away. And I love the actual language and approach, it's in many ways the best experience I ever had in web programming. Ruined by this awful passive aggressive approach to management which itself triggers criticism (by the Elm 'team' disengaging at the slightest hint of 'negativity' such that everyone is always walking around Evan on eggshells).

For an example see e.g. https://lukeplant.me.uk/blog/posts/why-im-leaving-elm/