I don't think it's about being honest. Organizations are difficult to manage. Join a shitty org and try to make it better. You're not entitled to some role doing something you love in a perfectly run organization. Such things don't exist and if you think you're smarter than everyone else, manifest this organization somewhere
I know you’re just joking, but clearly you’re never met a real-life narcissist. It’s incredible trying to explain to them that they’re wrong about something and seeing the expressions on their face as they literally struggle to understand how they could possibly have failed
Eh, if that’s the worst you’ve seen it probably wasn’t NPD (more garden variety or inexperienced narcissism).
The really ‘fun’ folks are when you never see any confusion, because they ‘know’ they couldn’t fail - they ‘know’ you’re conspiring to destroy them using whatever tricks they tend to use, and have no doubts about it. Regardless of how absurd or illogical that would be.
And then the sabotage, manipulation, gaslighting, triangulation, false accusations, outright attacks, etc. start. With no remorse, because in their eyes they’re the victim and are just being ‘fair’.
That’s when document, document, document, and better hope you’ve got real power and a way to back it up, or you’re going to have a hard time. Probably even then. Because yes, they’re exhausting.
